"Real Women have cur-" STFU

Anytime I see any derivative of the "Real Women have curves" meme I want to scream and repeatedly bang my head against a wall.  I've talked about this in the past but I believe it is so important to NOT make these kind of comments- therefore I will continue to bark on about it until I am blue in the face!

Me ready to bang my head against the wall

Me ready to bang my head against the wall



I started noticing this on social media around about the time "Plus Size Models" started coming into prominence.  It was always the same old comments- "Finally a REAL Woman", "bones are for dogs", "REAL women have curves/wobbly bits/cellulite" etc.  I know most of the time this is coming from a truly innocent place but what these commenters don't realise is that they are bagging the SHIT out of their naturally skinny sisters.  That is not how Body positivity works- you can't bring up one body type by bashing another!  I totally get that it's easy to get swept up in the sense of relief you feel when you FINALLY see a body type that is attainable or that you can relate to. Buuuuuuut that's no reason to adopt the notion that you are better than someone who doesn't have the curvalicious boobs and butt that you have.  

It's so fab that we are beginning to celebrate different shapes and sizes in the media and progressing from the "one size fits all" ideal, hell- I probably wouldn't have a job if it wasn't the case(!) but let's work on a compromise and celebrate both skinny and curvy - and everything in between! Body image trends will come and go, we have seen everything from a voluptuous, soft edged figure during the Italian Renaissance, Kate Moss heroin chic of the 90's and now the Instagram age of impossibly thin waists, (thanks to waist trainers and detox teas), butts that defy gravity and space, d cup breasts all whilst remaining a toned and terrific size 6. Phew. It's just exhausting isn't it? Our #bodygoals are changing just as quickly as Britney's 55 hour marriage.  It is impossible to live up to society's ideal of what a real woman is, since that definition is forever changing.  Just when you've finally grown your own Kardashian ass, society will tell you that you need a butt reminiscent of an ironing board.  SCREW the rules and trends and be your own version of a real woman. 

"Real Women" are thin, fat, curvy, have long hair, no hair, have no vagina, or they might have two, they may have fake boobs, saggy boobs, or one boob- you get the picture!  A "Real Woman" is whatever the hell she wants to be!
 

Yaaaaas internet

Yaaaaas internet